Relationships last longer when the predominant weight of communication between people is on the side of nice things said.
But sometimes, I say things that aren’t exactly lovey dovey. For example, I will say to my husband, “You have to wash your shirt, it stinks”
But in general, we make it a practice to say positive, appreciative things.
I find this practice of saying nice things helps in society also. On the job, as a news reporter, I scold myself after saying things tainted with anger or impatience. I try to say things that are encouraging.
I’ve even experimented with this tactic.
When I meet a grumpy person, I purposely say something nice. And results show, a greater majority of the time, the immediate atmosphere takes on a livelier feeling.
From 21st Century Science and Health, “Gentle words, and an unselfish attention to detail in what promotes the success of your spouse, will prove valuable in prolonging one another’s health and smiles rather than stolid indifference or resentment. Remember, a simple heartfelt word or deed is powerful enough to renew the romance.”