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Discover love and truth

During my college years, I met my future husband. He wasn’t perfect but neither was I. We wed after my graduation, and June 25, 2020 celebrated our thirty-seventh anniversary. Explaining the heartfelt love and truth shown me through our relationship is slippery, like soaping up in the shower with the intent to become squeaky clean, but as the warm water flows, in a blink, I’m fumbling and grasping air in vain because the slick soap escaped my hands to crash to the floor.

Oh sure, I’ve managed to get through a shower without dropping the soap, but no matter what I write, words and human analogies are slippery. They can’t define the love and truth that give meaning to life. Neither can marriage.

Unmarried people also experience the same love and truth that gives meaning to being.

Whether married or not, a relationship is a commitment and the commitment to discover love and truth wins the day.

Discover.

Not expect. Not demand. Not think, that love and truth, at any point in human life was found or lost in any sense of being complete.

Yes, I feel more complete with my husband and the family we’ve grown, rather than without. And as much as I love, trust, and rely on him, I must, every minute, commit to discovering love and truth, rather than look to see if he took out the garbage, otherwise life becomes empty and love and truth seem to slip away.

But it’s me who slipped. So I re-commit to discovering more of the love and truth that ever belonged and continues to embolden, enrich, and embrace me, my husband, and you.

Ps. 66:5-10–Modern English Version

Come and see the works of God;
    He is awesome in His doings toward mankind.
He turned the sea into dry land;
    they crossed the river on foot;
    there we rejoiced in Him.
He rules by His power forever;
    His eyes keep watch on the nations;
    do not let the rebellious exalt themselves. Selah

Oh, bless our God, you people,
    and make the voice of His praise to be heard,
who keeps our soul among the living,
    and does not allow our feet to slip.
10 For You, O God, have proved us;
    You have refined us, as silver is refined.

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Making spiritual power my own

My friend showed me her new car. I was happy for her. She needed a reliable car. It was her car and my happiness.

As for my car, I loaned it to another friend. He was happy I loaned my car to him. To express his gratitude, he cleaned my car. I was happy to loan my car to him.  I was also happy to make the clean car my own. He eventually got his own car and happiness was our own again.

When can we make something our own? What happens when we make a thing or a mental power our own?

We can make something else our own when we work for and earn it. As for a mental power, we can make it our own anytime. And yes, we can tell the difference between what to make our own and what not to. We don’t try to make someone else’s car our own.

But we can discover and make God-given mental power our own. If we don’t, we’re only being happy for or admiring other people for having the power.

Whereas God gave us all the ability to discover spiritual power and make it our own. Spiritual principles are ours. For example, in the 19th century, Mary Baker Eddy explained a spiritual principle, Christian Science, in her book, Science and Health. Christian Science is a thought process that starts and ends with God and healing. Part of making Christian Science my  own was to discover the principle and practice it in everyday life. If I didn’t make it my own, but just admired Eddy, everything got weird. Christian Science got misunderstood and lost. So, to beat the weirdness, I kept discovering and making spirit my own.

When I revised Mary Baker Eddy’s Science and Health, I didn’t make her book my own, I discovered and made Christian Science (a spiritual power) my own.

“Mentally and silently plead the case scientifically for Truth. You may adapt the reasoning to meet the peculiar or general symptoms of the case you treat, but be thoroughly persuaded in your own mind concerning the truth which you think or speak, and you will be the winner.”—21st Century Science and Health

Tips on joy

As defined by the National Institute of Mental Health, depression is a common but serious mood disorder.

The website reports that “Depression is one of the most common mental disorders in the U.S. Current research suggests that depression is caused by a combination of genetic, biological, environmental, and psychological factors.”

Medications, psychotherapy, and brain stimulation are discussed as options to treat depression. Other tips include staying active and exercising, setting realistic goals, continue to education yourself about depression.

I’d like to add my own tip: educate yourself about joy, motivation, and spiritual worth.

Even if these attributes feel distant, they do exist. We see joy in other people. We feel the earth constantly motivated by renewing springs. We hear about the spiritual worth of finding peace and confidence within.

What if joy, motivation, and worth were created before us? What if joy, motivation, and worth didn’t need human beings, human personalities, or money to exist? What if joy, motivation, and worth were sustained by an unseen force that exists everywhere? What if we didn’t “get” joy, or own joy? Could it mean that we can’t lose it?

Is joy helping others? Is motivation the drive to share goodness? Is worth estimated by spiritual qualities of honesty, modesty, and letting go of materialism?

Quoting from science & religion to God

We must spiritually think for ourselves and image forth divine knowledge; otherwise, indifferent, self-destructive, and depressed behavior is believed to be our own thinking and it will be exhibited. We also need to encourage in others their right and responsibility to know and act on divine thoughts.

Don’t build up evil.

This human way of life can be awful to contemplate. Mortal existence can be the drudgery of pro-creating without love or building up false images rather than being an image of Spirit. Though mortal existence can be fun sometimes, it’s the blind leading the blind. Our passions and appetites end in pain. Superficial joys cheat us. Our gratifications get prickly. Then we die.

What do we gain through toil, struggle, and sorrow? We can gain the strength to bury our beliefs of perishable life and happiness, and reach for the immortal.

Truth causes us to be honest and care for ourselves and the environment. Love causes us to better ourselves, to fight for and share in a practical, meaningful life. We eventually realize that the consciousness of love is the only asset worth taking with us whether we move, change our image, or die.

Silent prayer, spiritual awareness, and obedience come with the grace of Love. We are worthy of Love’s grace. We can be patient with ourselves and with others, because in this complicated world most of us are rookies at internalizing the divine character.

Divine knowledge exists, is in force, and has ultimate power. Divine thoughts are intelligent, fruitful, unified; they belong to us.

 

 

 

Who am I praising?

In Psalms 65 I read about giving praise to God.

I wondered, do I give praise to God? Or to a recipe?

Do I praise Spirit, or rituals?

Do I give praise to divine Mind, or human minds?

Verses 1 through 4 of Psalms 65 reads as follows:

Praise is due to you, O God, in Zion,
    and to you shall vows be performed.
O you who hear prayer,
    to you shall all flesh come.
When iniquities prevail against me,
    you atone for our transgressions.
Blessed is the one you choose and bring near,
    to dwell in your courts!
We shall be satisfied with the goodness of your house,
    the holiness of your temple!

I keep reading and discover promises of wonderful results when praising God:

By awesome deeds you answer us with righteousness,
    O God of our salvation,
the hope of all the ends of the earth
    and of the farthest seas;
the one who by his strength established the mountains,
    being girded with might;
who stills the roaring of the seas,
    the roaring of their waves,
    the tumult of the peoples,
so that those who dwell at the ends of the earth are in awe at your signs.
You make the going out of the morning and the evening to shout for joy.

 

 

Taking the bossy out of marriage

Excerpts from my new book, “from science & religion to God,” is a briefer narrative of Mary Baker Eddy’s “Science and Health”:

“When a marriage is challenged, and it will be, don’t panic. Don’t become self-righteous. Sorrow has its reward and never leaves us where it found us. Let inspiration and wisdom guide your decisions.

Sit down and talk with your spouse before it gets to the point where you can’t talk civilly. Get a mediator if you need. Don’t complain and demand; listen back and forth. Compromise, and together learn how to be efficient, economical, fair, and thoughtful when it comes to household errands, financial matters, and your sex life. Spiritual, not bossy or ungrateful, consciousness is needed. You can’t fall out of Love because love is ever-present.

Trials teach us not to lean on human crutches, but on God. Remember this even when things are going well in a marriage. Use good and bad experiences to your advantage by letting new views of divine goodness and love come alive in everyday life.

Having children is a monumental responsibility. Having children doesn’t prove your spouse loves you. Children will not fill a void, only God can. Being a parent means caring for, paying for, cleaning up after, setting a good example, and teaching wisely the children.

We want to diminish mistakes, give higher aims to ambition, and raise our children with attitudes and expectations worthy of perpetuity.”

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