Learned behavior is prevelant. Children repeat their parents. Society mimics what is popular. Followers do what they think leaders are telling them to do. Comfort zones train people to defend their space or status. Trained behavior doesn’t last.
The other side of the coin is learning from behavior. This tactic is infused with a love awareness. At some point, we stop mimicking and start observing and understanding and responding humanely. After becoming aware of others, we also can recognize behavior that hurts or divides and understand how to improve behavior in order to love one another. This learning is expansive and gives a sense of purposeful life. We chose to learn through relationships, work, play, dialogue, volunteering, and so on.
Learning, versus learned, requires asking what are the needs of others? What is their body language telling me? How can I help if need?
I have a cute pet example, Hammish and Sammy have learned behavior, they do what their caretakers have trained them to do which makes them acceptable to society. However, they also observe and learn through play. They know clawing and biting hard hurts, so they don’t do it. Love is being reflected and they know how to live life. They also know participation offers an inclusive feeling.
“Yes, we love because he first loved us.”–John